I never realized how much Christian culture was focused on finding "the one" until I became single. All of these books are about how you can find the right guy and how God has you in this place to prepare you for the man you're supposed to be with. It's all so familiar to me, and freshman year I drank it all up. For some reason, it doesn't make sense right now though. My entire life is not to point me to some guy I'll spend it with. Not everything that happens in my life is related to my relationship status. This may seems super clear to y'all, but up until recently I thought of everything in terms of "who will I be with?" or "who will I serve with?". But in reality I lost sight of who God really is. I don't need to find "the one". JESUS is "the One". If my focus is all on what man I'll spend the rest of my life with, then I'm forgetting that I'm already spending my life with Christ. He is beside me every day, He never fails me, He loves me unconditionally, and He'll never leave me. I need to stop wondering who I'll be with and start focusing on who I'm already with. I need to stop being so concerned about who I'll serve with, and start focusing on who I'm serving! The thought that God has made me single in order to point me toward the guy I'm going to marry or even to prepare me in this time for him is so foolish and selfish. I need to draw closer to Christ and make Him what completes me. I will never be satisfied or fulfilled if I rely on someone other than the Lord. And y'all, this is so refreshing to know! I don't need to be worried about what my relationship status will look like. I can just love on my brothers in Christ as just my brothers in Christ. I can grow in my relationship with the Lord and not be so concerned about what He's going to give me in return for my faithfulness. This is... good.